RISK (1)

“I am not afraid of anything. I wasn’t afraid to lose either of my matches. It didn’t matter about the gold medal.

I love to wrestle and I just wanted to have fun and I did.”

These were the words spoken on August 18, 2016 by young Canadian, Erica Wiebe, after she won a gold medal in women’s wrestling at the Olympic games in Brazil.

What if we re-learned how to handle fear, stress and risk?

Birds do it. Bees do it. Even educated fleas do it. Let’s do it…let’s …

TAKE A RISK!!!

Many of you will recognize the above first line from an old-time song…

Birds do it. Bees do it. Even educated fleas do it. Let’s do it…

LET’S FALL IN LOVE.

Birds take risks to find food and build their nests. Bees take risks to search for pollen and serve their Queen. I must admit, I don’t know much about fleas and their daily habits and activities – but I am sure they take risks too.

To continue with the words of the original song… Falling in love is a risk too.

Why do we get risk-averse when it’s “GO” time? Let’s admit it, risk-averse is a fancy term for S-C-A-R-E-D. Be honest, have you ever been scared to take a risk? Of course you have. We all have. Well, here’s what I have to say about that, “Congratulations for being human!” We all get scared from time to time. We will continue to allow ourselves to be afraid until – we DON’T!

What are we afraid of? Failure? Embarrassment? Rejection? Looking silly? Success? Afraid that we can’t deliver what we sell?  Afraid that we’ll be found out?

Let’s play with the theory that the only thing that we should be afraid of is living our lives in mediocrity and smallness.

Let’s talk about the birds and the bees again. They know there are risks. They are always on the lookout for predators and danger but they move forward anyway. Why? They know exactly what they want and need and nothing will stop them from achieving their objectives. Nothing!  Every day they find their food because they know – NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!

Something else we learned – the birds and the bees – as we were taught in school – can help us make babies. J

Isn’t it interesting – human babies only have two fears: Loud noises and falling. Babies are fearless when they learn to do anything new like crawling, walking or touching new things. They only add to their fears when they are taught to: “Don’t run into the street! Don’t touch a hot thing!”

The challenge is – if the babies keep hearing only negative feedback as they grow older – it sticks with them. “Oh, don’t try that honey, you might lose!” That language is tame but it can be harsher: “Oh, what if you screw up like you did last time?”

Of course we have to train our children about the obvious risks but some-times our best intentions end up programming them to NEVER take a risk.

Again I ask: What if we re-learned how to handle fear, stress and risk?

We you are challenged to learn new things you may say, “Trying that doesn’t make sense!”  When I said that to my mentor one day, he told me, “Of course it doesn’t make sense – to you. If it made sense you would have already done it or you’d already know it.”

Truthfully, the biggest risk is NOT taking one.  We’ve all heard the stories of people who are interviewed in their senior years and they say that they should have taken more risks.

Try new things and allow yourself to make mistakes. Forgive yourself in advance for any slip-ups or oversights you may make. Embrace new ideas. Try new things…GO FOR IT.

Let’s come back to the birds one last time – they know exactly what they want and need and nothing will stop them from achieving their objectives. Nothing! 

When you adopt the strategy of – I see only the objective – I acknowledge the risks, I move forward confidently, then – the obstacles will be irrelevant.

Let’s finish this article the way we started it –

“I am not afraid of anything.   I wasn’t afraid to lose either of my matches. It didn’t matter about the gold medal.

I love to wrestle and I just wanted to have fun and I did.”

Erica Wiebe

PS: The biggest risk is standing still. If you don’t do it someone will!